It makes sense, doesn’t it? Humans experience pain at a similar magnitude as they do pleasure. Marriage, the union of two individuals is such a powerful and happy event that it often leaves people in tears. Death, the loss of someone or something we have a deep connection with leaves us again in tears. Life as we know it wants to rest in equilibrium and our dualities are locked in eternal battle
The equalization of emotions is easy to comprehend on a macro scale. But, what about the minute? What about the mundane everyday jolts of emotion we encounter? In exercise, I took these questions to thought. As I recalled the day’s events, I kept coming up on the negatives. There was that jerk who didn’t use a turn signal almost causing an accident. Next, I was pushed into a light post because the group walking towards me on the sidewalk would not scoot over. Or, any number of little errors at my job that caused my blood pressure to spike.
This is not an equilibrium at all. If I were golfing, I would have a wicked slice. Where was my wrist control to even out my club aim? Where was my joy? Where were the little things?
It is easy to forget the positive because humans are ego monsters. When something good happens, we think “yepp this is how life should be”. Hah, we are so silly. We can work for nine months to pay for a tropical vacation only to sit on the beach and think “this is how everyday life should be”. Yet, we immediately forget about the nine months of work required to make that happen.
At the end of my day, I forgot the three green lights in a row I hit driving home. The first beautiful cup of hot coffee had slipped my mind. Feeling my dog curl up under my feet as I worked apparently was a smile I do not remember. Life is filled with mini joyous moments, stop being a dummy and enjoy the little things.